Monday, January 14, 2019

January 2019


My blogging friend Carrie, of The Parenting Passageway, writes helpful, inspiring, meaningful posts on a very regular basis. I read and nod along with so many. She often writes a post for each month discussing relevant dates and ways to honor and celebrate those days as well as the season itself. This month, she added what she and her children were covering in each grade she is homeschooling, as well as personal and home goals and activities. I loved reading it and thought it was a format of sharing I would like to try. So here goes...




In January we hope for rain
to fill our reservoirs again. 
~Nicola

Dates of Interest:

These are some of the days our family is celebrating this month or simply things we are taking note of or interest in.

January 1: New Year's Day - for our family, this is the last day of our holiday countdown and a day that M has off of work.

January 20: Total Lunar Eclipse - I am excited that the eclipse can be seen at a time our kids can be awake to see it! Rainy weather may affect us, but fingers crossed we get a glimpse.

January 21: Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, observed

January 28: Journey North Mystery Class begins

Homeschooling:

After a very clunky few months, we are settling into a new and more predictable rhythm, which is very welcome!

Both kids are participating in a class and, ultimately, a production of Shakespeare's Twelfth Night right now. A lot of their lesson work stems from or is tied to this class, whether it be speech (learning lines), writing, or history.

Fifth grader: He is beginning to research and work on a project for the Shakespeare class. His chosen topic is architecture. I will help him narrow it down more as he explores his resources. He has regular/daily math he is doing using Teaching Textbooks and Key To workbooks. I am noticing some areas we need to review and/or gap-fill, so we are working on those, as well. He has learning differences with phonics, spelling, and writing, so we are using a program called REWARDS to support his progress in these areas.

Eight grader: She is also beginning to research and work on a project for the Shakespeare class. Her chosen topic is bookbinding in Elizabethan England. She is working on math daily using Khan Academy and Key To workbooks. We are also working through gaps. We have just gone through a lengthy evaluation for her and so are processing all we learned and making a plan for how to continue encouraging her strengths while adjusting assistance in the areas she needs more support.

Self-care:

My word for the year is present. My goal is to be mindful right now. A lot has happened in the past couple of years in our family that has affected my responses, reactions, and abilities to stay present. Also, we are having to do a lot more thinking and planning for educational changes next year. For various reasons, I have felt depleted and it has affected my health. So for self-care, I have resumed waking before everyone, getting a quiet cup of tea, and journaling. I have shifted my journaling prompts again, and having something fresh, helps. I am also getting daily exercise and M and I are re-establishing an at-home date night weekly.

Parenting:

One on one time for any of us (parent-child or husband-wife) has been ridiculously limited lately, so one of my goals right now is to make sure we are getting at least a little bit (that isn't connected to homeschool lessons). For Brown Mouse, this means remembering to pause what I am doing and join him in his play. For Lala Bug, it means joining her while she knits or crafts. And for M and me, it means those date nights I mentioned and a willingness to stay up later than my body likes, for at least one night a week, as his schedule and mine are a bit different. In addition, I have been mulling over Brown Mouse's social needs and supporting Lala Bug in building up the skills she will need for high school. We are still undecided about how/where she will be for 9th grade, so we have been touring schools and learning about the charter schools that serve homeschooled high schoolers.

Home Life:

I ended 2018 and began 2019 thinking a lot about my words for the years, shifting from happy to present. With my inner work toward happy came a foundation of work I needed to do around my expectations of others, limits/boundaries, and holding those limits with love. With a goal of being present, comes strength. All of that said, I have been doing a lot of inner work on my own needs, guilt, and what I am teaching my children through how I express all of this. Part of the result is that I am being clearer with the kids about the need for each of them to contribute more in our home, so I can be responsible for less. In addition, we are working towards some simple renovations (really, completion of projects started long ago) and a thorough purge and clean as we move toward re-arranging who sleeps in which rooms of our small house. This is long overdue and feels like a huge hurdle, so we are tackling a little bit at a time.

Crafting:

I simply don't have the time and energy I had when the kids were littler, to do the types of creating or writing I used to do. I know, it is a matter of how I choose to use my time. Right now, those pursuits are getting less of me. I have been reading for pleasure, I have been doing a tiny bit of knitting, and I have been taking photographs, which I love. Both kids are expressing an interest in photography, so I am considering signing us up for an online photo class. This would be something we could enjoy together, do in our own time from home, and also expose Lala Bug to online classes, which she will need to be familiar with in high school. We, as a family, have been crafting a lot, though. There was a lot of merry making leading up to Christmas and I have supported my very crafty children!


Well...so much January goodness. Although it is already mid-January, I have enjoyed sharing our plans. Maybe as we go along, I will also share what we actually did! If you care to share what is happening at your house, I would love to read it!


Saturday, January 5, 2019

Holiday Countdown 2018




Each year, we countdown during the holidays. I know I am a little late in posting this, but the reality for us is that we didn't feel all that Christmasy until it was all over. We had a little get-away after the new year and came home feeling a little more in the spirit, so I am finally posting on 12th night.


This is our December countdown for 2018. It took us through December, through January 1, 2019. I change it to adjust to my growing kids, who still love and ask for this tradition each year. This year, I noticed that perhaps we don't need the countdown after Christmas quite so much. I have always included this to ease some of the post-holiday let-down. Next year, the kids will let me know what they want and need. I love this tradition, too.



  1. Sparkle Stories Advent stories begin!
  2. Special holiday event with friends.
  3. Light the Menorah. (The kids were given a new build-your-own Menoroah.)
  4. Make latkes
  5. Make a holiday decoration for Grannie (They decorated a wreath, which we hung on her front door.)
  6. Happy St. Nicholas and Play dreidel (The kids were given a dreidel decorating kit.)
  7. Pull out the holiday books!
  8. Pull out Christmas decorations and start to decorate.
  9. Get a Christmas tree!
  10. Decorate the Christmas tree and watch Yogi’s first Christmas (a tradition)
  11. Treasure Hunt!  (The kids found a mini tree to decorate for their room, their dolls and stuffed animals.)
  12. Make a card or gift.
  13. Pull out instruments or sing. Practice a Christmas song. (We had such a fun jam session!)
  14. Take care of the birds.
  15. See the hillside nativity scene.
  16. Attend a holiday concert.
  17. Choose a candy cane from the tree.
  18. Treasure Hunt! (Each kid found a new article of clothing.)
  19. Bunny day! Take extra care of our rabbit.
  20. Neighborhood day! Pick up garbage, deliver toffee and cards.
  21. Winter Solstice! Visit the library book store and choose a book for yourself and one as a gift.
  22. Get out in nature! Super high tide today What unusual shore birds can you spot?
  23. Bake cookies. Celebrate Christmas with family.
  24. Take a rain walk and get a kettle corn treat.
  25. Merry Christmas! Celebrate Christmas with family.
  26. Make paper snowflakes.
  27. Have a play date with friends at the park.
  28. Write thank you notes
  29. Take a hike.  See the ladybugs.
  30. Go see Mary Poppins Returns with friends and perform and act of service for neighbor, family, or friend
  31. Winter Spiral
  32. (January 1): Make a ‘dream garden’ collage for 2019




Monday, December 31, 2018

present



I am not sure at what point the word present landed on my list of possible words for 2019, but it was some months ago, perhaps even nearly a year ago. Sometime in November, though, it floated to the top of my mind and stuck there. Well, in honesty, I tipped back and forth between present and presence, but I decided that present had a little more flexibility to it and I am a woman who likes a little flexibility.

Each year, I choose a guiding word for myself. In fact, 2019 marks my 10th year of doing so. Woah. My words so far have been calm (2010), nourish (2011), hope (2012), renewal (2013), treasure (2014), joy (2015), potato (really, humor and laughter...potato was a family joke, 2016), harmony (2017), and happy (with expectations and boundaries being the foundation, 2018).

Just writing those words evokes so many memories and emotions for me, each word chosen carefully to honor where I was at that time in my life and my personal growth. I carry each word forward with me, knowing which ones I still need to meditate on from time to time.

As I reflect on my word for 2018, happy, I feel so good. So many really hard things happened for me (I don't want to use the words to me) in 2018 with regard to relationships with several people close to me. The kind of hurts that last a long time and grief that resurfaces in moments we least want it to, but makes us more confident, stronger, and reflect more on ourselves and what is most important. Coming into 2018, I already knew that the foundation of happy for me at this time in my life, was a need to be clear about my expectations of others (and myself) and a need to work on setting and holding boundaries. While still a work in progress for me, I have come a long way and each step has contributed to my overall sense of happy.

I will keep working on that in 2019, but the latter half of 2018 left me recognizing that I am having to work really hard to stay present. Parts of me feel stuck in the past, parts of me feel too forward-thinking, and part of me just feels muddled, fuzzy headed, wrapped up in worries, and unable to stay focused and mindful of what is important right now. All we have is today. I want to have happy presence with my family, I want to have clarity of mind, and I want to feel lighter and less drained. I think this may mean viewing the word present in a different way, as well...as a present to myself or the gift of self-care.

Do you have a word or goal for 2019?

Thursday, December 20, 2018

toffee (again!)


This is a post previously shared on my former blog and posted again each year. This is such a favorite that I receive multiple requests for it each year. 

 



Toffee
1 cup chopped walnuts
3/4 cup packed brown sugar
1/2 cup butter
1/2 cup chocolate chips

Butter an 8-inch square pan. spread the chopped nuts in the pan.
Heat the butter and sugar and boil over medium heat, stirring constantly, until the mixture darkens and just begins to smoke, approximately 7 minutes.
Immediately pour the mixture evenly over the nuts and sprinkle the chocolate chips over this.
Cover the pan with a cookie sheet to keep the heat in and melt the chocolate.
Spread the chocolate evenly over the toffee layer. If desired, sprinkle more chopped nuts into the chocolate layer. Score while still warm, unless you don't mind irregularly broken pieces. (I don't mind them.) Refrigerate until hard.

Nicola's edited additions: I don't usually stir constantly. A reader commented about butter separation. When she did so, it had never happened to me. It subsequently happened once. I believe it was because I started with frozen butter and let that melt and begin to bubble before I added the sugar. Make sure you put these in the pan at the same time, room temperature. If you like hard toffee, make sure you cook it long enough. (It begins to have a slightly burnt smell.) If you like softer toffee, don't cook it as long. The 7 minute marker is helpful, but I find it takes longer, and after you have done a handful of batches, you will also notice the mixture thin and darken slightly.

from The Complete Tightwad Gazette by Amy Dacyczyn

Friday, December 7, 2018

learning period 2 of 2018-2019


I really haven't been blogging much and when I have, it has been more of a documentation and sharing of our homeschooling than anything else creative or economical. I shared learning period 1 and "our 168" (hours per week) in October and didn't post in November at all!

I am back to share a little about learning period 2, which was October and November. Here we are in December and time is zipping by always more quickly than I would like.

October and November were filled with numerous atypical appointments. December, in addition to all the celebrations, will have its fair share of appointments too.  I love the winter holidays, but I am slow to get into them right now, because I am dragging a bit and worn from our inconsistent rhythm. I need to create something to look forward to in January, when appointments are done, new rhythm can be made, and that helps ease the bleakness I tend to feel after the holidays.



Can you tell we did a block on chocolate? I had intended for this to be more of a math block and began with Marsha Johnson's History of Chocolate guide, but one book lead to another, which lead to maps (we love Map of the Month) and history and science. So we did a little math, but we learned more about the history of the Americas, how chocolate was made originally, how it is made now, how it spread in popularity, and we taste tested various chocolates. We even made chocolate. This was a wonderful block!



Social studies: We studied the history and geography of chocolate. We studied early U.S. history a little more through various avenues...our American Girl 4-H project, reading Johnny Tremain by Esther Forbes, and through the Constitution class Lala Bug took through our charter school. The class had them exploring different parts of the Constitution, choosing a topic, writing a paper, and giving a speech, as well as multiple quizzes. Between her love of history and 4-H speaking experiences, Lala rocked the class.



Math: Teaching Textbooks for Brown Mouse, Khan Academy for Lala Bug, games, and Key To... series workbooks for both kids. We are more consistent with math right now and all I can hope is that it is enough. Brown Mouse took a math class through our charter, where they covered a lot about ratios and fractions and Lala Bug, of course, knit a lot and continued writing knitting patterns.

Language arts and Writing: We are loving Brave Writer for language arts and writing. This second learning period we read and worked through the Arrow guide for Frindle by Andrew Clements (just a fun book) and we are working through Johnny Tremain by Esther Forbes right now. The Constitution class Lala Bug was in gave her the extra writing work she needed and for Brown Mouse, we are working through a reading and spelling support program called REWARDS, which he is having success with.

 
Science: Lala Bug took a personal interest, deep dive into the history of the U.S. exploration of space, particularly the moon, which, of course, covered a lot of science, as well. The interested began with the book Countdown: 2979 Days to the Moon by Suzanne Slade, which was excellent. We also explored science during our chocolate block and Brown Mouse took a Nature Detectives class through our charter. He really enjoyed that and because of our weekly nature studies, he really got a chance to shine, sharing some of his knowledge with his friends and teachers.


Nature plays a big role in our homeschool, with time spent weekly exploring and monthly at the farm with 4-H. This past month, our state was heavily hit with devastating wildfires. The smoke from the fires blew our way and settled to stay for a couple of weeks. It affected our ability to be outside and made for some interested observations, recordings, and conversations.


Moving into December and the new year, I need to take some time to re-evaluate where we are and where we need to shift. We have toured several schools now and I have also attended more discussion groups about homeschooling high school. It is time for us to begin putting in applications for high schools and our family to sit down and discuss wants, needs, goals, and plans. Lots ahead of us!

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

another year bigger



Dear Brown Mouse,

Blink! Another year just flew by and even you are noticing that time seems to be speeding up. You just said to me, "Wasn't it just Christmas?" Last year, Buddy!

Everything I wrote last year, when you hit double digits, is still spot on. So much so that I was thinking to add some comments that I thought were new this past year, but...nope.

You, my friend, continue to be curious, adventurous, playful, sensitive, loving, and hilarious. You are the first to get wet, muddy, and messy, all in the name of fun. You still love science and building things, and the rest of us still have the joy of joining in your exploration and play. I love spending my days with you!

You light up my life, Boo. I suspect this coming year is going to be one of big changes. I can't wait to see where it takes us!

I love you so much,
Mama

Saturday, October 20, 2018

Our 168


Recently, Carrie of The Parenting Passageway (one of the few blogs I still read and follow consistently) wrote about her family's use of the 168 hours in a week. I have written 'day in the life' posts before and I have privately recorded, hour by hour, my use of time (eye-opening), but I thought I would join her and share here, our current 168 from our homeschool perspective.

 Morning read aloud is an important part of our rhythm. Some of our current or recently completed books. So so good.

Our kids are in 8th and 5th grades. We have some unique needs, which I mention only because I know from years of parenting now, that these differences deeply affect how, why, and when we do or do not do things in our family. M works full time plus has a rough commute and conference calls in different time zones, so while he is fully engaged and supportive of our family life and homeschooling, he isn't available to relieve me easily for personal appointments, classes, or evenings off/out. We are doing our best to meet all the needs, but it is tricky right now. It feels nearly impossible to give our kids, ourselves, our families, and our marriage each the time and focus they need and deserve.

I try to begin every day with quiet time for myself for journaling and exercise. Our family meal is breakfast. We have daily 'house help' tasks to address basic cleaning, cooking, laundry, and pet. Everyone helps and these tasks and emotional/mental health are taking the lead in our schooling right now.

I am a gentle planner. A couple of us in our family do much better when we have a strong rhythm, consistency, and a sense of what is coming, so I like to prepare, because it helps me be more flexible in the moment. While we don't have a daily dinner theme, I always plan meals for the week ahead, based on what we have, what is in season, an what our schedule is. The meal plan for the week is then put on the fridge. We have a range of food sensitivities, so preparing is important, but we also keep it simple. We do have a daily breakfast plan that everyone can expect.

Below is roughly how we are using our 168 hours right now. This will change once we hit U.S. Thanksgiving and the holiday season and I have had to work very hard to keep some open days, although those days have been getting filled with atypical, but necessary, appointments this fall. When we have home days, we do a read-aloud, house help, main lessons, play time, independent reading, additional lesson work, and other projects (group or independent).


Monday:
  • Nature study/hike
  • 4-H project
  • Occupational Therapy
  • Soccer practice

Tuesday:
  • Optional drop-in soccer class (The kids have been part of this group for several years, but having a morning class really makes it hard to do main lesson work, so right now, since they are also on soccer teams, we do drop-in occasionally.)
  • Home day for lesson work and projects

Wednesday:
  • Charter school class or activities day
  • Errands
  • Library 
  • Soccer practice

Thursday:
  • Home day for lesson work and projects
  • (Homeschool group has park day or other activities. We only occasionally attend.)
  • Once per month 4-H project
  • Shakespeare book club for kids, MNO for me

Friday:
  • Home day for lesson work and projects
  • Once per month 4-H project

Weekend:
  • Soccer games
  • Family time/outing
  • One on one time with the kids if we can
  • preparing for the week ahead
  • Project work on/in our home (DIY fixer upper)
  • Time with extended family
  • M likes to hike on his own, in addition to family hikes

How are you spending your days?

 
Late October nature table